RoksanaStoynova wrote: my mother in law has started bugging me that i should be learning french instead, she doesn't understand why i have no interest in french. she needs to accept that her son married and anglo and move on ffs.
lol my dad was like that with me for a long time, but it was over Spanish instead of French. I wasn't studying Japanese at the time, but I just wasn't interested in really studying Spanish. I'm sure she'll get over it eventually, especially when your children are trilingual (i'm assuming your hubby speaks french because his mom seems to be really stressing it, hehe).
A comment on kanji order: For me, I started using the jouyou kajji order, which worked well, but whenever I hit a block in my ability to remember kanji, i switched to some other random order (i've tried the Remember the Kanji order, but never got far). It kinda gave my brain a jolt. Also, I started learning kanji compounds early on. I think that helped because it provided context and increased my literacy level so I was able to learn more kanji through reading instead of flashcards or whatever.
I also recommend writing kanji. It helps to really imprint it in your brain. You learn how to write it instead of just recognize it (which is what happens when you use IME). For me, it took time to train my hand to write the kanji correctly. Even if I remembered the stroke order, it still looked a little childish for a while (and probably still does). This isn't very different than english though. I remember writing pages and pages and pages when I was in middle school because I wanted to have perfect cursive, lol.