The nature of love between Xiaoyao and Tushanjing: Dragon Bone Prison, Muxiyuan, Sang Tianer
The reason why many readers are constantly arguing about who Xiaoyao loves is that, in addition to everyone’s understanding of the text, there is another important reason, that is, everyone has a different view of love. There is not only one kind of love, some are as plain as water and as slow as water . , some are earth-shattering and vigorous, some resonate with souls and cherish each other, some have complementary personalities and like to be friends, some raise eyebrows and respect each other as guests, some are obsessed with love and hate, and will never stop...
The metaphor of "Sang Tian'er"
So what kind of love does Xiaoyao have for Jing? There are a few original passages in the book that may provide the answer.
"Everyone thinks that people who receive kindness will feel close to those who give kindness, but they don't know that people who give kindness will also feel close to the people they save."
Note: Xiaoyao has been close, compassionate, and soft-hearted towards Jing from the beginning. This is the basis of her feelings for Jing. Later, Jing also admitted that when he was in Dragon Bone Prison, he took advantage of Xiaoyao's sympathy and soft-heartedness towards him. Make Xiaoyao promise to wait for him for fifteen years.
"People think I'm kind-hearted, but actually, it's just because I'm weak. I feel at ease when I'm with the weak. I feel like I'm in control of everything, I'm relied on, and I won't give up."
Note: Xiaoyao is a very insecure person, so she is afraid of all uncontrollable relationships. Being uncontrollable means that she may be abandoned. Between her and Jing, Jing is always cautious and worried about gains and losses, while she Occupying a high position and taking the initiative, she feels that her relationship with Jing is controllable, which is why she is willing to give Jing a chance.
"A man like you looks decisive and charming, but I am just an ordinary woman. What I want to find is someone who can accompany me for the rest of my life. Life is long and there will be too many changes. I believe that only Only a person with a kind nature can treat me kindly throughout his life. Even if I make a mistake, he will tolerate me. I don’t believe that a person who is cruel to everyone in the world will treat me as an exception. I don’t have that strong self-confidence and self-confidence. love."
Note: Xiaoyao is very unconfident and even pessimistic. She will think of the worst outcome when making any decision. Jing's kindness may seem weak to others and some readers, but it is what makes Xiaoyao most at ease. Think about it, even Tu Shanhou can be forgiven by Jing, a person's lowest point can't be that bad, and even the worst Tushan Jing can tolerate her. This is why Xiaoyao chooses Jing and not anyone else. s reason. However, it can also be seen from this that Xiaoyao has her own criteria for choosing a mate, and she also strictly follows her own criteria for finding a partner.
"How do you men judge whether a woman is sincere or fake? Even if she is sincere, how do you know what kind of sincerity it is? You must know that there are many kinds of sincerity..."
What kind of sincerity does she have towards Jing? If you still don’t understand after reading this, let’s take a look at Sang Tianer’s words.
"I started receiving customers when I was thirteen years old. I have seen many men in the past twelve years. Chuan Zi is really not good at all, but he is the only one willing to marry me."
"After twelve years of prostitution, my heart is cold and hard. Even now I still don't believe that Chuanzi will really not despise me and will really be willing to spend the rest of his life with me, but I want to give it a try. If Chuanzi is really willing to be with me However, I am willing to treat him wholeheartedly."
"I really want a man who can turn me back to the person I was twelve years ago, make my heart soft, make me cry and laugh happily at the same time. If Chuanzi is really that man, I will cherish my life more than Cherish him.”
Let’s take a look at Xiaoyao’s evaluation of the marriage between Sang Tian’er and Chuanzi: “Tian’er doesn’t believe that Chuanzi will live with her sincerely, and what she is giving Chuanzi now is all false love. But Chuanzi doesn’t know that Tianer is right for Chuanzi. If he is nice, he will be nicer to Tian'er, and Tian'er will be nicer to him when he sees Chuanzi. The falsehood gradually mixes with the truth, and over time, eventually the falsehood becomes true."
do you understand? Why does the author write about the plot of Qingshui Town in such a rich and colorful way, and why does he spend so much time writing about Sang Tianer and Chuanzi, just to make up for the word count? Or did Tonghua get tired of writing romance novels and start writing farming novels instead? Obviously not, Sang Tianer's feelings for Chuanzi are a metaphor for Xiaoyao's feelings for Jing.
▼Even every sentence of Sang Tianer, Xiaoyao can correspond one to one. For example, the first sentence corresponds to: When Aheng asked Xiaoyao why it was Tu Shanjing, how Xiaoyao answered, not the answer "How good he is, how much I love him," she said, "Only he, no matter what happens, will never abandon me." - This means that Jing is indeed not attracted to her, but only he chose Xiaoyao, Jing is good at playing music, chess, calligraphy, painting and doing business. Xiaoyao neither likes nor is good at it. Jing is good at everything, but has no attraction (or "charm") to Xiaoyao. What impresses Xiaoyao is not " "Sexual" attraction, but because he meets Xiaoyao's criteria for choosing a mate.
▼The second sentence corresponds to: Xiaoyao’s heart is also cold and hard. When Jinglong Bone Prison confessed her love, did Xiaoyao believe it? No, but she wanted to try, so she was willing to give Jing a chance to get close to her. After the sweet date between Xiaozhurong Mansion and Jing, did Xiaoyao believe it? No, she thought Jing was married and had children for thirty-seven years at the bottom of the sea. Behind the seemingly sweet look of Muxiyuan, it was all Xiaoyao's false love! Xiaoyao really started to mix the truth with the false feelings. After returning from the bottom of the sea, she saw that Jing was actually willing to die for her, and she was moved.
Tong Hua wrote Sang Tian'er and Chuanzi, and the "grass snake gray line" technique was also used very well, but after all, this is an emotional line, and I don't want to use the analysis of "snake demon and nine-tailed fox as structural clues" to correspond to the development of the story one by one. In this way, we can analyze Yao Jing's emotional line, Sang Tianer and Chuanzi's "foreshadowing", and everyone can "take care of it" by themselves.
Dragon Bone Prison: Fifteen Years Promise
<Xiao Liu raised his head, shook Shi Qi's arm and acted coquettishly, "You haven't seen anything about me, tell me, tell me!" Xiao Liu has always looked like a rogue man, and for the first time, he showed the coquettishness of his little daughter. state. Although the cell was dark and Shi Qi could not see clearly, he was already retreating steadily. >
Everyone already knows that the man in Xiaoyao's heart at this time is Xiang Liu, but looking at her coquettish and coquettish manner towards Jing, she pretends to be just like the real thing. Don’t forget, Xiaoyao is a cunning loach, and disguise is a special skill for her.
<Seventeen's breath was a little disordered, and his heartbeat began to beat rapidly. Xiaoliu knew what he wanted to say, but was embarrassed to say it. Xiaoliu didn't rush him, he just curled up on his shoulder like a cat and waited quietly. "Xiao Liu, I, I... I know that I am engaged, and I am not qualified to say anything to you... I have never dared to think about it... but... but... I will cancel the engagement, I will definitely cancel the engagement! You wait for me for twenty years...no, no...fifteen years, fifteen years, you give Tushanjing fifteen years, and after fifteen years, Tushanjing will give you Ye Shiqi in return." Xiao Liu whispered. Asked: "How to wait?" "You, don't let other men... live in your heart." Xiao Liu was silent. >
Xiaoyao knew what Jing wanted to say, but was embarrassed to say it, so what did Xiaoyao do? "Like a cat, curling up on his shoulder, waiting quietly." Xiaoyao knows how to do it very well! It can be said that she deliberately asked Jing to confess to him.
But she shouldn't have expected that Tu Shanjing confessed his love and even made demands. She was silent because Xiang Liu had already lived in her heart. But Xiaoyao is such an honest person, will she tell the truth to Jing? no.
<Xiao Liu said: "You don't understand me very well. My heart is very cold, and there is a hard shell on the outside. Let alone fifteen years, I'm afraid I won't let a man run in in fifty years.">
This answer is very particular. Long before she hid in the hard shell, Xiang Liu was already in her heart, so of course she would not let other men run in in the future. Jing's request is not to let other men live in her heart, but what she promised Jing is: not to let men run into her heart, but what about the men who are already living in her heart? She couldn't control it, and Jing didn't ask.
Do you still remember Xiaoyao’s psychological activities after asking Xiang Liu to pay for the bow and arrow?
<Xiao Yao bit her lip and slowly lowered her head. Xiang Liu is not just any man. She made a big mistake! >
To her, Xiang Liu was not any other man, never had been, not from Dragon Bone Prison.
Is the fifteen-year agreement essentially a promise of love? Of course not, the essence of the fifteen-year agreement is a business.
<Xiao Liu couldn't help but raise the corners of his mouth, "You said that everything is just business. Seeing you like this, why do I feel that I have lost money in this business?">
Judging from Xiaoyao's words, in Xiaoyao's eyes, this is a business, and it is a business that she will suffer losses from. Xiaoyao is not stupid: you keep saying that you are not qualified and that you dare not think about it, but you want me to wait for you for fifteen years, and You want me to keep my heart for you, but you took it from me before you gave me anything.
<Seventeen shook Xiaoliu's hand, "I say the more important things seem to be, the more they are like business. They are nothing more than interests. But the word "love" can never be measured by interests. The love between parents and children, brothers. The love between sisters, the love between friends, and the love between men and women are all seemingly ordinary and simple, ubiquitous, but rare and hard to find and worthless.”>
Then there is Tu Shanjing’s wonderful negotiation skills: Oh, it’s your fault for thinking this way. We are talking about feelings. How can you be so clear about it as you are talking about money?
<Xiao Liu said with a smile: "I've always heard people say that Tu Shanjing is very good at business, and he is funny and sharp when talking about business. I always don't believe it. You always look stupid and don't speak fluently. Tonight I am really Got it.”>
But has Xiaoyao fallen into the trap of Jing's words? No, if Xiaoyao was so easy to deceive, he would have been deceived to the point where not even his bones were left. The implication of Xiaoyao's words is: You can really talk about business, I have learned a lesson.
<Seventeen laughed softly. His laughter was just like him, gentle, peaceful and pure. >
Haha, if you readers understand my interpretation above, you will know how wonderfully Tong Hua uses the "Spring and Autumn Brushwork" here. What is the "Spring and Autumn Brushwork"? It means that praise and blame are included in the tortuous writing style. "Gentle, peaceful, pure", if these adjectives appear in other situations, we can still believe that Tushan Jing is indeed like this, but here, he is the complete opposite. This is the author's explicit praise and covert criticism of Jing!
<Xiao Liu said: "Seventeen, I'm different from you. I'm not a businessman, but I've always been very clear about big things. I'm a cruel person. I'm cruel to others, but even more cruel to myself. You understand. ?”>
Xiaoyao started her negotiation. What negotiation skills did she use? Intimidation.
Translation: Although I'm not as good at doing business as you are, you can't fool me on this matter. If you dare to make me suffer, I won't forgive you.
<Seventeen said: "I know you won't give yourself hope, you won't trust first, you won't invest first. Sang Tian'er is willing to gamble your life with false feelings, but even if you are sincere, if the other person doesn't cherish it, you I will also give it up. I am willing to wait until you are willing."
"What if I don't want to do it for the rest of my life?"
"Then wait for a lifetime. As long as you don't disappear, even if you live like this for a lifetime, it will be good.">
Jing was not afraid at all, and the negotiation skills Jing used were: inducement.
Translation: Oh, don’t worry, although I ask for this business from you first, but as long as you are willing to wait for me for fifteen years, good times are coming! When the time comes, I will cherish you very much. Even if you don't trust me and don't invest in me emotionally, I will still be willing to wait for you all my life, cherish you and be good to you all my life.
Tushan Jing is smart. He has been with Xiaoyao in Qingshui Town for several years. He knows very well where Xiaoyao's pain points are and what Xiaoyao longs for. What does Jing's words mean to Xiaoyao? She may not love him, she may not have him in her heart, but he will still take care of her, accompany her, and be good to her every day like Ye Shiqi in Qingshui Town, and for the rest of his life. And Xiaoyao only needs to wait for fifteen years, and there is an ambiguous promise of "not letting a man get into my heart." Faced with this huge temptation, how can Xiaoyao not be tempted?
So from then on, the business between the two was concluded.
<Shiqi smiled. Xiaoliu was indeed cruel to herself, but in fact she had always been very kind to others. Lao Mu, Sang Tianer, Mazi, Chuanzi... She was just a passer-by in their lives, but she fulfilled each of them. . >
I said at the beginning that the book "Sauvignon Blanc" is full of "grass snakes and gray lines". Although Xiaoyao is written here, it is actually written about Xiangliu. Xiang Liu and Xiao Yao are the same. "He is a cruel person. He is cruel to others and even more cruel to himself." But in fact, Xiang Liu is only cruel to himself. He has always been very kind to others. Xiao Yao, Gonggong, Shennong Yijun... He fulfilled each of them, even to his own horse Maoqiu, he was always very good.
But having said that, why was Jing's mental activity like this in the end? Because in his opinion, Xiaoyao is actually soft-hearted towards others, and this business was fulfilled because Xiaoyao was soft-hearted towards him.
muxiyuan
Since there are too many descriptions of Yao Jing, I specifically singled out the chapter "The Peaceful Years in Muxiyuan". This chapter is a crucial chapter for Yao Jing's emotional changes. Before that, Xiaoyao had been looking for Fangfeng Beiwan, who was already Xiangliu, every once in a while, and at the end of the previous chapter, Xiaoyao had put a lot of effort into making the delicacies of "Koi Playing with Lotus" to coax Xiangliu. , and then Xiaoyao moved into Xiaozhurong Mansion to help her brother, giving Fenglong a chance to get close to her. But at the beginning of this chapter, Xiaoyao suddenly became particularly proactive towards Jing, as if she suddenly liked Jing very much. Why is this? After this chapter comes Merlin's Massacre and Thirty-seven Years Under the Sea. You must know that Xiaoyao never thought about Jing when he was at the bottom of the sea. The only time he thought of was to guess that Jing and Fangfeng Yiying had children. The out-of-the-way chapter of Muxiyuan seems very abrupt and intriguing.
<One day, Xiaoyao was preparing medicinal herbs. Xinyue came to see Xiaoyao.
(Here is when Xinyue came to tell Jing that she was coming to live here, and then after Xinyue left)
Xiaoyao looked at the herbs in her hand and suddenly couldn't remember what she wanted to do just now. >
Note: It would be understandable if Xiaoyao would disguise his reaction when talking to Xinyue, but what was Xiaoyao's reaction after Xinyue left? happy? No, it was a feeling of waking up from a dream. She didn't realize that she had been busy with everything related to Xiang Liu, and Xinyue suddenly informed her that Jing was coming, which made her realize: Yes, Jing. She is my development partner, and Jing is my marriage candidate. What am I doing during this time? Xiaoyao felt guilty and guilty towards Jing.
<"Xiaoyao, tell me, what would you do if your sweetheart couldn't go hunting because of inconvenient legs and feet?"
Xiaoyao whispered: "I will accompany him."
Xinyue said: "That's right! That's why I said Brother Jing was pitiful. Later, my brother came back with prey, but Yiying was still playing in the mountains. Seeing that Brother Jing was lonely, my brother said half jokingly and half reproachfully, "Jing My brother is too playful in pampering his woman. How can that idiot of my brother understand that no matter how playful a woman is, if her heart is tied to a man, she will naturally guard her heart.”>
Note: Here Xinyue and Xiaoyao Bagua mentioned that Fangfeng Yiying doesn’t like Jing at all. Does Xiaoyao think that this paragraph about Fangfeng Yiying also applies to her? "I will accompany him." Did Xiaoyao accompany him? During Fenglong Xinyue's birthday party, Tu Shanjing even came with her, but she still went to play Qushangliushui with Fangfengbei. "Brother Jing is too playful in pampering his woman." This sentence fits perfectly with Xiaoyao. Jing had calculated and managed to get Xiaoyao to come to the Central Plains, but Xiaoyao fell in love every now and then. I went to find Fangfeng Bei to play. "How could my idiot brother understand that no matter how playful a woman is, if her heart is attached to a man, she will naturally guard her heart." When Xiaoyao heard this sentence, wasn't it a warning? Xiaoyao realized that she couldn't keep her heart at all. She originally hated Fangfeng Yiying for neglecting Jing, but what about herself? Xiaoyao felt guilty and distressed for Jing.
<"Why now? Last time at the beach, I asked you... but you refused."
"I don't know, maybe because you are so kind, maybe because I am very selfish now and only think about myself, maybe because you were too..." Jingxiao looked at Xiaoyao, the last two words were almost silent, Xiaoyao said I can only guess based on the lip shape that it seems to be "attractive". >
Note: Does Jing know that Xiaoyao is being hypocritical? He knew it, but Xiaoyao kissed his leg with pity. At that moment, he felt that Xiaoyao was so good. His love for Xiaoyao suddenly surged to the top, making him unable to help himself. At that moment, he just wanted to ask for peace and love. Possession, "Maybe it's because I'm very selfish now and only think about myself." It's obviously a love between you and me, so why do you say it's selfish? Because Jing knew very well that Xiaoyao was not intimate with him because she loved him, but he couldn't care so much anymore, or in other words, he accepted Xiaoyao's kindness and willingly cooperated with her play.
<Jing has been sitting quietly, as if she didn't hear anything. Looking out of the crystal car window, heavy snow is flying between the sky and the earth, and there is a vast expanse of white. >
Note: This is the last paragraph of the chapter where Jing and Xiaoyao stayed in Muxiyuan until they had to return to Qingqiu for the New Year. It stands to reason that the relationship has made rapid progress, and Jing's mood at this time should be sweet, but the description of this paragraph But it only gives people a feeling of loneliness, why? Because he knew that he had just finished a sweet scene with Xiaoyao, but he not only wanted to win Xiaoyao's person, he also wanted to win her heart, so he felt lost and confused.
Merlin's murder was also a turning point in Tu Shanjing's change of mind. After he experienced the pain of losing Xiaoyao once, he lowered his expectations and no longer asked for Xiaoyao's heart. He only wanted to be with Xiaoyao. This This mentality remains until the end of the novel.
The theory of "id", "ego" and "superego"
When Xiaoyao's "id" wants to choose Xiang Liu most, or her "superego" thinks she should choose Zhuanxu, either of them makes her feel anxious and painful at the same time, she can only rely on the one her "self" thinks she can choose. People come to regulate emotions and relieve pain.
So, why did Xiaoyao choose Tu Shanjing as the mediator?
When Zhuanxu and Huangdi discussed formally sending troops to encircle and suppress Gonggong.
<Xiaoyao sat quietly, hearing the voices of Huangdi and Zhuanxu in her ears, but her heart flew out——... By the Xihe River, she rescued Jing; in order to catch Feifei, she met the White Eagle Maoqiu was given forty lashes by Xiang Liu; the poison she wanted to poison Xiang Liu poisoned Jing; in order to help Zhuan Xu get rid of the poison, she made a deal with Xiang Liu, but she didn't expect that she was a lover who had the same mind and lifeblood. …>
The beginning of this paragraph is the recall of the first acquaintance with Jing and Xiang Liu in Qingshui Town, and the last part is the recall of the relationship with Xiang Liu before leaving Qingshui Town. Xiaoyao just said "She wanted to poison Xiang Liu with the same poison." "It's Jing" summed up all the memories of those years in Qingshui Town. What does this show? This just shows what kind of foundation the relationship between Xiaoyao and Tu Shanjing has always been based on!
This sentence happened when Xiaoyao met Xiangliu for the second time. Xiangliu came to give him a gift. Xiaoyao poisoned Xiangliu's wine but it did not poison Xiangliu. After Xiangliu left, Xiaoyao was depressed and gave the wine to Jing. Drink, Jing was poisoned.
From that time on, Xiaoyao has always known that desires that cannot be satisfied by Xiang Liu will be released through Jing; emotions that cannot be vented by Xiang Liu will be regulated by Jing.
For example, Mingyue on the Sea was heartbroken by Xiang Liu and found comfort in Jing; Xiang Liu used her Gu to assassinate Zhuan Xu, and she turned around and asked Jing if she could not hurt Zhuan Xu. She received Jing's affirmative reply and gave her hope. Some peace of mind; when Zhuan Xu came to capture her, her first thought was that Xiang Liu came to save her, but in the end it was Jing who helped her escape. There are many, many more, so I won’t list them all.
From Xiaoyao's perspective, Jing's shortcomings in Xiang Liu's are exactly the opposite. Xiang Liu is ruthless, but Jing is very kind; Xiang Liu always bullies her, but Jing cares about her; Xiang Liu may be difficult to control, but Jing listens to her words; Xiang Liu wants to kill her brother, but Jing promises not to Against her brother; Xiang Liu's attitude has always been unclear, but Jing has always made promises to her. Jing could give her whatever she couldn't get from Xiang Liu.
When she was in Qingshui Town, the person who made Xiaoyao feel uneasy and painful was Xiang Liu. At that time, she had been relying on Tushan Jing to get rid of the pain. She didn't dare to get angry when she was angry with Xiang Liu, so she turned around and got angry at Jing. If you can't meet your needs, go to Jing and ask for them. She didn't just start choosing Jing as the mediator after the fifteen-year contract in Dragon Bone Prison. She had been doing this for a long time, and she had become perfect with practice.
Especially since there was another Zhuan Xu later who made her anxious and painful, she needed Jing even more.
For example, she didn’t want to see her father, so Zhuan Xu forced her to take her back, and Jing was able to help her escape according to her wishes; Zhuan Xu “always forced her to eat a lot of disgusting things,” but Jing wanted to do nothing but be with her. No one in the world would force her; Zhuanxu's situation was always very dangerous. After becoming the Queen, she was worried about Zhuanxu every day, but Jing could help her brother and comfort her to a certain extent; Zhuanxu and Xiang Liu were at odds with each other, and she was in front of Zhuanxu. She had to keep her feelings for Xiang Liu a secret, so she had no scruples in front of Jing (at least until she got engaged to Jing).
After Xiaoyao and Jing resolved all misunderstandings and obstacles, Xiaoyao said during a date: "Jing, these days I feel like I have become smaller and become a child again. Being with you feels like... By my mother’s side.”
Seeing this, don’t you still understand what Jing means to Xiaoyao? Jing is someone she can control and can rely on herself, a being who always makes her pity and make her feel close, a companion who will never leave her, a kind-hearted partner who can treat her well and tolerate her all her life, and a partner who never leaves her. A marriageable person who can oppose her brother and marry her, a dependent person who can make up for her lack of maternal love and heal her pain. Jing is the perfect partner who meets almost all of Xiaoyao's criteria for choosing a mate. see it? This is the basis of Xiaoyao and Jing's love. She loves him because she needs him, and she loves him because he suits her. Is there any sexual attraction here? Is there any soul resonance? NOTHING!!!!!!
But who can say that this is not love? Isn't this how most people's love is in reality? In the beginning, it was just because they were lonely and wanted companionship. They also had a good impression of the other person and did not reject getting close to them. The other person was also very good to me, so they were willing to try it together. At the beginning, they did it. Be prepared to get away at any time. As time goes by, you will become more and more accustomed to it, and the bond will become deeper and deeper. If it happens to be a good match, and the other person's character is really reliable, and finally get married, this is simply the most beautiful thing in reality of love.
