Drama practically advocates domestic abuse

This drama sends SUCH a bad message. I know many Asian dramas have a similar narrative, but I've never seen any that are anywhere near as irredeemable as this one. It's fairly normal to have a rich, jerk of a guy, one the drama tries to guide the audience into thinking is just "misunderstood". Then along comes a girl who, through her love and other redeeming qualities, helps the guy change and turn into a great person. This drama, however, takes the jerk aspect far beyond normal, into seriously abusive. There are so many warning signs that he is dangerous, but the drama just treats it all like it's normal, just entertainment! He tries to control her by giving her a curfew, telling her who she can and can't hang out with, stalking her when she does go out without his permission, he has a horrible temper, both towards her and others, he forcibly grabs her wrists (hard) on multiple occasions, forcibly kisses her (hard) also on multiple occasions, constantly berates her verbally - and all of this BEFORE they are even dating! Not to mention that he puts a hit out on her until he realizes he won't get an inheritence if she dies, and that his actions indirectly cause the death of someone close to her AND that he at one point gets her drunk, undresses her and sleeps with her (they leave it unclear as to whether he was attempting to fool her into thinking there was sex involved or if there was actual sex involved). They totally glossed over that last one, like "potential rape? who cares? let's make a joke out of it, it'll be funny!" As someone who lives in China and has seen firsthand the naivety of some Chinese young women as well as a wider acceptance of domestic abuse (compared to America), I find it really disturbing the message that this show sent to young girls. It's like they were saying "Don't worry that he treats you like trash and tries to control you - he really is a good guy underneath that and truly loves you! Just perservere through all this abuse and he'll eventually change into the great guy you know he could be!" I'm sorry, but no - the message they should be sending is that guys like that turn into guys who beat their wives and deserve to go to jail.

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This episode was just too difficult to watch

My rating really is because I could not watch it, it was painful. This is the period of TDramas that I don't like. I hate that they wait until the end to interject a serious conflict that truthfully, I cannot see the main couple recovering from. Now that Fu An now knows everything because of the bitch Zhen Zhen, all hell has broken lose and grandfather has collaspe. If the preview for 15 is any indication, Da Feng has reverted back to his hateful self and as I said, this is the period when I feel the main couple should just quit. Even though I also like Dong Jie better than Da Feng, in the same breath, I know that Da Feng was sincere in his love and that's what makes the break up even more painful and to see him revert back? Too sad to watch. I did some serious skipping around in this episode and I believe the next one will be no better. I guess I might as well just skip to the final episode as in true TDrama fashion, that is where everything will be resolve. If you are going to go this route, I just assume NOT to have a happy ending.

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