La dificultad de dejar ir

"Si no es amor, no duele". No sé si esa frase es cierta -la verdad, no me parece que lo sea- pero, lo que sí es cierto, es que cuando duele por amor, duele demasiado. Este capítulo nos muestra ese dolor, el dolor de la separación cuando hubo amor. El cariño que persiste, los vínculos, los recuerdos hacen que sea difícil cortar. Cuando se pone término a una relación, suele persistir la consideración, la presencia, la permanencia. Por lo mismo, la separación es un duelo tanto para el que deja como para el que es dejado. Eso es lo que le pasa a Wen y a Alan. No podría criticar a ninguno de ellos. No hay nada más difícil que cortar con quien se ha amado y, por eso, es un proceso. Pero, como todo, tiene un punto final. A veces, ese punto demora más en llegar, pero llega. Es triste, pero, liberador. Eso vimos en este capítulo.Sobre Jin, es un personaje que no me termina de gustar. No porque esté mal escrito o mal actuado, sino porque es cobarde. Esa cobardía para enfrentarte a tu vida, para salir de tu zona de confort, me molesta. Jin es así. Luego de su ruptura se cierra al amor, para no sufrir, incapaz de reconocer que no gobierna sus sentimientos. Por lo mismo, es ambiguo respecto a Wen. Lo ha rechazado innumerables veces y se hace el dolido por lo de Alan. Un hombre de casi 40 años -como él dice- se comporta de manera cobarde. Es un buen tipo, trabajador, leal, cariñoso con su sobrino y su gente, protector. Pero, cobarde. Dice que no quiere complicaciones, pero, en realidad, no quiere arriesgarse a perder. Y, amar es siempre un riesgo no apto para cobardes. Como dice Silvio Rodriguez "Los amores cobardes no llegan a amores ni a historias, se quedan allí. Ni el recuerdo los puede salvar" (Wen, por el contrario, va con todo. Por eso es mi personaje favorito)Muy distinto a su tío, tenemos a Li Ming. Un joven valiente que va con toda la fuerza y rebeldía de su juventud, su carácter e inocencia en búsqueda de lo que quiere y lo que considera correcto. Un exquisito. Qué relación más linda la que tiene con Heart. Cómo se va desarrollando ese amor adolescente, ingenuo, hermoso y tan generoso. Li Ming no solo se preocupa por escuchar a Heart, sino que le inyecta vida. Y qué manera de contrastar con los adultos. Jin tiene mucho que aprender de su sobrino. Los adolescentes siempre tienen cosas que enseñarnos. Por supuesto, Li Ming es mi segundo personaje favorito.

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a tough start. before anything have to say;…

a tough start. before anything have to say; reading a comment that said "all is fair in love and war" irritated me (get where the commenter was coming from), but the idea isn't acceptable to me! would like to think that people should try n keep a semblance of humanity/compassion in both situations. Know, it's easier said then done!! but that would be a better world, then one where people follows the rules of the saying, that is self-serving n a Very sad reality to exist in ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ *************************************************************************************************************************************************************seeing the confrontation between ex-lovers, i get both POV's. when u've been with someone for a while (someone u once loved), u do things just to avoid hurting them more then necessary. but that doesn't mean it's a good idea or that either in the right. Wen out of guilt (maybe), stayed beside Alan hoping that his enabling a friendship, would lessen the hurt n his guilt. which logically backfired, as Alan subconsciously (or not) thought that the love they had, could be "recovered", if Wen's ready to stay, that means there is a chance they could recover the love they had. both in the wrong, cause neither is getting what they want, n never will. ********************************************************************************************************************sometimes u need to be cruel to be kind - Wen should've said no, no to living together, no to staying friends - just NO. but Wen tends to be manipulative (n self-centered). the more this ep progresses u see that all his actions r self-serving. as Alan was the one that loved n gave more in that 'ship' - Wen the taker, can't seem to break out of the comfy mold, even when he knows he is giving Alan false hope. ***************************************************************************************************************how many times Gong gotta advise him at the folly of his behavior? until he finally ends it with Alan? but he can't/wont look for another place, he goes from one "giver" to the next (he knows Jim will help him / take him in). he taking care of how many?!? what's one more?!?( ˘︹˘ ) this a healthy relationship?!? this love? yeah, the toxic kind(ノω<。)ノ*********************************how sad that the reason Gaipa & his mother r being so helpful, is cause Gaipa has a crush on someone who doesn't know he exist (unless he needs something). not saying Jim's taking advantage - but this still sadder then anything happening between Jim & Wen. cause both mother n son deserve better! ***********************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************love Ming & Heart, they sweet, pure n wholesome - but what happens to Heart, as Ming planning on leaving?!? the confrontation with his parents needed to happen, cause the conditions he's living in r ridiculous. he just a teen, n has to live a long independent life. Get his parents treating him like he fragile, trying to keep him in cotton at home, where he wouldn't get hurt or sick. but that aint a life - so the big blow-up (i hope) will be cathartic

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