Born to Be the One (2024)

“We haven’t enjoyed the present yet. How can we talk about the future? ”

This is, in short, a story about three couples. Each of them faces different challenges in life, career, and relationship.

Na Wei and Shen Li are a married couple in their forties. Their story went through drastic changes that are both heartbreaking and inspirational. Shen Lin is my favorite character in the entire show. She is, to me, a strong inspiration for a lot of women out there. She’s brave, smart, and loving. She knows how to stay on her ground and knows when to let go of her pride, which is admirable.

Na Juan and Xiao Yue are the youngest couple in the story. Their problem as a couple is deeply rooted in their opposite values in life, especially when it comes to career. They’re the least interesting to me. But, I have to say, I have a soft spot for Xiao Yue in my heart. She reminds me of myself a little bit. And she has made some decisions that I also made in the past. Out of the cast, she’s the one I related to the most.

Lastly, Shen Lei and Mei Lan. The couple in which I was interested the most but was disappointed because we didn’t get enough out of their story. Mei Lan is such a polarizing character. I wanted to get more of her story.

This is a solid and underrated slice of life story full of lessons.

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The main couple saved this drama for me.

I’ll start by saying that Born to Be the One is one of the best slice-of-life dramas I’ve seen in a while in terms of cast, production quality, and set design. The series does an excellent job of capturing the small, everyday moments of life while portraying realistic relationships. It’s clear that a lot of money was invested in this production, from hiring a talented ensemble of actors to the high-quality, film-like visuals of each episode. The attention to detail in the set design and the cinematography elevates the viewing experience. You can also tell that the drama took a long time to film, as the characters and their relationships evolve naturally over the course of the series.

That being said, this drama is not for everyone. It’s slow-paced, repetitive at times, and occasionally drifts into boring territory. If you’re looking for a drama that’s light and fun, this isn’t it. It’s not a show designed for quick entertainment; instead, you have to approach it as a meditative experience that unfolds gradually. You need patience and a mindset geared toward reflection to truly appreciate it.

Summary
The official synopsis of Born to Be the One is somewhat misleading, so I’ll offer my own. The story is primarily about the lives of two couples, rather than three, as the third couple spends a significant portion of the drama apart due to a divorce.

The series follows three key couples:

A married couple in their 40s living in Beijing, as they navigate the challenges and successes of their daily lives.
A couple in their 30s, who are trying to find their way in life, especially as they wrestle with their differences in values and personal goals.
A third couple, whose relationship disintegrates early in the series, leading them to separate in order to rediscover their true selves.
The Couples
The First Couple (The Main Couple)
This couple, in their 40s, truly saved the drama for me. They are the emotional core of the story, and their unwavering support for each other is what drives much of the series. The male lead’s mother is one of the most endearing characters in the show—she’s positive, supportive, and refreshingly down-to-earth. The male lead, while sometimes frustrating and slow to grasp things, always makes an effort to help his family. The female lead is remarkable. She carries the drama with her strength and resilience, even after making mistakes early on. Her portrayal feels real and heartfelt, and the actress delivers a performance that is both relatable and powerful. Their daughter is also portrayed excellently, adding another layer of warmth to the family dynamics.

One of the best aspects of this couple is that, despite their struggles, they never give up on each other. Their love feels genuine, and the actors' chemistry makes them feel like a real family. You can sense the bond between them growing stronger as the story progresses, making it easy to become emotionally invested in their journey.

The Second Couple
Spoilers ahead. This couple, in their 30s, has a much more toxic dynamic. The male lead is a workaholic, driven by his desire to secure a prosperous future, which often makes him controlling and rigid. The female lead, on the other hand, is naive, a bit lazy, and prone to playing the victim. Their relationship is fraught with tension, and they break up twice over the course of the drama.

The first breakup is triggered when the female lead declines a promotion that would have helped her financially, opting for free time instead. This frustrates the male lead, who is focused on securing a stable future. The second breakup is more complicated and feels a bit forced for the sake of drama. The male lead, while intelligent and forward-thinking, is manipulative, and after each breakup, he immediately starts going on blind dates in an attempt to move on quickly. The female lead, however, doesn’t take life as seriously as him. Her carefree attitude stems from the death of her parents when she was in 12th grade, which led her to adopt a "live for the moment" mindset.

Ultimately, their differences become too great to overcome. The female lead breaks up with him for the second time after he buys two apartments, one of which he intends for her, and even proposes. Her decision to break up at that moment was frustrating, considering everything they’d gone through. Personally, I felt they should’ve parted ways earlier, as their values and life goals were clearly misaligned.

The Third Couple
This couple is largely unnecessary to the overall plot. They spend most of the drama apart, with the male lead going on a soul-searching journey in the mountains, while the female lead, who is manipulative, blames him for their problems. Their relationship is toxic, but both of them come to realize that they are not meant to be. Although I didn’t agree with all of the female lead’s actions, her motivations are understandable. In the end, they divorce peacefully and develop a mutual respect for each other. However, their storyline doesn’t add much depth to the drama, and their absence would hardly change the overall narrative.

The Ending
The ending was somewhat underwhelming. The second male lead finds a new girlfriend in the final two episodes, but it’s clear he still has feelings for the second female lead, who, by this point, has chosen to prioritize her freedom. The main couple remains strong and stays together, while the third male lead finds happiness after his soul-searching journey. Though the conclusion felt rushed, it did provide a sense of closure. The central message of the drama—that sacrifices are necessary, and a strong will can help overcome life’s challenges—resonates throughout. It also reminds viewers that not every love is meant to last forever, and that’s okay.

Do I Recommend It?
It depends on what you’re looking for in a drama. If you enjoy slice-of-life stories that feel natural and grounded in reality, then Born to Be the One is definitely worth watching. However, if you prefer lighter, more comedic slice-of-life dramas or are looking for something more romantic, this may not be for you. Romance is not a major focus here—aside from the second couple, who are the only ones that share kisses, the rest of the relationships are established from the start.

In the end, this drama is more of an experience than a typical romance or feel-good series. I enjoyed watching it, although the last few episodes tested my patience enough that I watched them at 2x speed. Still, it’s a well-crafted show that offers a thoughtful exploration of relationships, family, and the complexities of love.

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