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Is it that bad ???

leemijin

a lot of people are waiting to be heard on this website.... 

i still dont understand why having a different opinion offends someone..  i see a lot of bash when someone writes a " negative " comment...... "negative" here is really just "different"

-am i being inconsiderate for stating my unpopular opinion,, ?? -or are those people very easily butthurt ????  i dont see the point of strongly defending ur favorite drama if others dont like it. u dont earn money from ur favorite drama being on the top show page..  ur fav drama also doesnt remake better or worse from all the criticizm

i understand that when i like something i want other people to watch it too but i can do that to friends i know in real life...... on MDL everyone can judge by themselves from the reviews and commetns and lot of people (including me) watch dramas that have bad comments anyway..... nobody is intentionally terrorizing ur fav drama / they just dont think like u they just leave one or a few negative comments because they really think like that and hope that people come and see it too........ to watch or not its up to them

i dont earn money from leaving " negative " comments too

i feel that people who strongly defend their fav dramas take  ***too much*** pride in liking a drama that ( they think ) is brilliant it doesnt make u look brilliant thoughh .. its not ur production .... u maybe just have a good eye for a "good" drama

I really dont understand ..  my account is quite new to MDL but used to read a lot of reviews here before -is it a trend here to act like that ? im really really curious.... im not trying to be offensive.. i thought of many possible reasons for this before writing this and still dont understand now for those people i will definitely look offended but idk :-/

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kittyflumpin
Sometimes people identify so strongly with The Thing They Like (not just dramas but many different things) that they immediately interpret any criticism of The Thing as criticism of them personally. Which is a terrible way to interact with media imo because unless they take great steps to surround themselves with an echo-chamber of like-minded fans, there's always someone out there with a different opinion. And how boring would a site like this be if only cheerleaders for a particular show were allowed to comment on it.

Having said that though, there is a difference between *constructive, thoughtful* criticism of a show (which should be something that even someone who likes it can discuss calmly and explain why they disagree) and just bagging on it relentlessly in a thread to antagonize people, or worse yet to insult the fans for liking it ("dumb fangirls," comments like that, etc.).

Honestly sometimes the most aggravating thing in a fandom is the fans themselves.
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rainruma
The point is to be polite and respectful of others' opinion, no matter what it is  .... In general, most people on MDL behave respectfully ..... if someone uses offensive language, they should be reported to administration, who is very good at dealing w/ such manners .... Rudeness is not welcomed here!!

I hope everyone here can state their opinion clearly and respectfully, and enter into a discussion either critiquing or defending their taste in dramas.

Notice I used the word CRITIQUE (not criticize), meaning to a give a critical examination of something ....   simply criticizing something or thoughtless fan-girling are similar in that they express a biased opinion, which can put others on the defensive and sometimes entice them to be rude .... 

I have very unpopular opinions, and have entered into some heated debates, but everyone stays respectful... sometimes I succeeded in swaying them, other times they succeeded in changing my mind ..... some people come out swinging, wanting a fight, but I've responded by calming them down, and I ended up being friends w/ a few ....  

The point is to RESPECT others' opinions .... and don't ever take it PERSONAL !!!!

I hope you continue to state your opinions, and welcome to MDL
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leemijin
I understand both of you and very well agree... and respectful users like you two i have encountered myself .. its just so sad that it becomes almost pointless to have respectful fans and comments when the very disrespectful ones are few in quantity but are very loud... too loud to ignore sometimes. i also feel very bad for people who have to apologize all the time when they state their unpopular opinion ( or sometimes they add "in my opinion" at the end when ofcourse it should be in their opinion) ....

Im never asking people to agree with me .. i find myself just leaving my comment for the fact that we have a comment section for people to leave comments and i wish that only people who agree can maybe leave a comment or just click the heart but thats never my point...... if i dont agree with some opinions i wouldnt reply to their comment from the start unless i find them really rude or offensive but i haven't done much of that because im not interested in fighting

i understand the point of " having a discussion " but i dont understand the point of taking things personally and act like they OWN that drama......... even if i ever produced a drama i wouldnt be that offended !

thanks both of u so much .. i will enjoy my experience here

and i welcome anyone who disagree! i really wanna hear why u feel overprotective of ur fav dramas........ im really really curious
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Restrin
@rainuma Opinions shouldn't be respected to begin with, people(members) should be respected, but not their opinion. There's a difference in saying "your opinion sucks" compared to "you suck".
@OP IKR? It's frustrating seeing people here can't criticize dramas or actors, as a result, a lot of not so good dramas get high ratings, because most users feel that they are obligated to be nice to dramas, or they don't like to be judged by others for not liking what they like!
Compare this site to other sites, like My Anime List; there's honest criticism there, and while ratings there doesn't -always- determine the quality of the anime, they're much more accurate than this site.(Same for reviews).
Being nice to dramas does nothing but waste the time of other users, only to end up disappointed, and would no longer trust (rightfully so) those ratings or reviews.
You can't hurt the feeling of the drama, or the actors (since they are not reading), and if the fans get hurt over that, it's their fault, they should learn to not be so butthurt over fiction or people who don't know them.

You can see the negative comments on popular dramas' pages get more likes (hearts) than the positive ones, since you can't see who gave those likes.
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leemijin
@nemesis -- Totally agree........
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