"The only thing worse than a man you can't control is a man you can."
That's why we love him. And I think some people have made a very good case for why he's not really thaaaaaaat toxic. Think about it. Was the only times he was toxic toward her, when it was snowing outside? If you take his whole personality, MINUS the parts where it's snowing out, that person isn't really truly toxic. And the other crazy stuff he does is because he has some mysterious ptsd thing going on. His malady. Whatever it was, idk.