Umi no Hajimari is a drama that asks only one thing from its audience: to pay attention to the struggles of its characters.

Those who are young, inexperienced, or simply haven’t developed a strong sense of empathy yet for fictional characters might look at this drama as being black and white. Meaning, they’ll perceive there being good characters and bad characters, but nothing in between. However, those of us who prefer characters and situations that mirror real life will likely have an easier time watching and understanding the complex motivations of each character.

I’ve been following this drama from week to week and noticed the different themes throughout this beautiful story so I'd thought I'd share some of them.

You Can't Do it Alone

Every flashback scene with Mizuki raising Umi highlights the struggles single parents go through. But through all the struggle, all the hardships, there's one key thing that stood out amongst these scenes: Mistsuki wasn't alone. She had a support system. Yes, she was emotionally distant with them, but still had people to lean on.

Flawed Characters Faced With Big Decisions

Mizuki’s Flaw - Fiercely independent, made decisions on the fly without talking to other people, was willing to struggle alone as opposed to asking for help.

Natsu’s Flaw - Indecisive, a follower, doesn’t express his own thoughts and feelings well.

Yayoi’s Flaw - Too agreeable, feels she is not important, doesn’t consider her own thoughts and feelings.

Each of these flawed characters were forced to make tough choices. For Mitsuki, she was torn between telling Natsu about his child or allow him to continue to live his life. For Natsu, his choice was to step up and be a father for Umi or continue to figure out what is the right thing to do. Lastly, Yayoi was confronted with a decision on whether or not she should play an active role in Natsu and Umi’s lives or leave them entirely.

These thoughts and choices all shape how this drama unfolds. Seeing such flawed yet relatable characters navigate around life’s hardest choices adds a realistic element to the story. As an adult and avid drama watcher, these types of portrayals is invaluable. For younger viewers, this should show you that not everything in life is black and white. Every story doesn’t have a hero and villain, but rather regular flawed people trying their best to make ends meet.

Grief - “Everyone’s so nice but suffering too”

Grief plays an integral role throughout this drama.

It weaves itself in and out of almost every dialogue. At times It’s subtle and poignant. Inescapable. Then there are moments where the grief becomes loud and present - demanding your attention. Urging you to understand the great loss the characters are going through.

For Mizuki's parents, the grief was almost unbearable to see play out. It caused them to unfairly criticize Natsu and even invoked anger towards him (At least on the moms part). Even Natsu himself wasn't immune to the effects of grief.

In Episode 8, Natsu has a conversation with his estranged dad. Actually, it was more like a venting session where Natsu spills out things that he bottled up inside, but that’s besides the point. Natsu said something along the lines of everyone is so nice but suffering too. He then mentioned, like he did before, how he feels like it’s not his right to feel sad because everyone was with her for seven years and he wasn’t. He then said that doesn’t change the fact that he’s sad as well.

Natsu was doing the common thing most grieving people do: quantifying sadness. Quantifying sadness, in simplest terms, is when you place an undetermined numerical value or weight to sadness when comparing it with others. It’s like saying he’s competing in the “Pain Olympics” with everyone who were closer to Mizuki than he was.

Grief doesn’t care about the duration of knowing someone. On the surface, it seemed like Natsu was catching up with everyone's grief, but in reality, he was in pain just like those closest to her. There are no levels of grief. Grief just is.

There are more themes but I didn't want to drag this review on longer lol. Overall, Umi no Hajimari will most certainly have a special place in my heart.