Note: I'm throwing in an extra point for the genuineness of the participants themselves. Because these men opened up and were vulnerable in ways I found truly beautiful.

The Boyfriend was an emotional journey that was not just focused on finding love but on friendship and personal growth. I felt honored and overjoyed to see each man find new courage, realization, motivation, and/or peace in their life.

This Queer reality dating show marks a monumental step forward for Japan, finally following in Korea's footsteps with their successful "His Man."

The Boyfriend being so similar to His Man, I would find it hard to review it properly without talking about the differences between them.

#1) Time. The Boyfriend allows a month for everyone to get to know each other, compared to His Man's seven days. While I did find it valuable for the men to spend more time together, as a viewer, I got frustrated with rarely having a concrete timeline. Between arguments, dates, and events, hours, days, or even a week could have passed. This made me question whether moments/exchanges were purposely framed to get a certain reaction from me and even the authenticity of The Boyfriend at times. I understand that having a month of footage to edit poses a challenge, but a small counter telling the date and time in the corner could have resolved this easily. His Man showed things more linearly and clearly, in my opinion.

#2) Fluidity. The participants seemed to feel more open to expressing their personal opinions about the world and their community. There were regular conversations shown regarding coming out, pronouns, labeling their sexuality/gender, fighting for rights, family expectations/starting a family, etc. His Man typically just has one dedicated episode/event where everyone gets the chance to discuss their experiences being Queer as well as coming out, with the participants having a few conversations about it but not nearly as many as The Boyfriend.

#3) Physical Touch. The participants here seemed far more willing to show/comfortable with showing affection/interest through physical touch. Close proximity, hugs, massages, backrubs, and kisses were all present. Sure, there are "moves" made on His Man, but nothing compared to The Boyfriend. Here, I felt it was not only more readily accepted but encouraged. Perhaps this is due to cultural differences. Of course, it could also be that these men, in particular, were simply comfortable with it. It's not a criticism of His Man, just something I noticed.

#4) The Coffee Truck. The premise of having everyone take turns working in pairs at a coffee truck was an excellent choice, in my opinion. It not only allowed for some guaranteed personal time each time it was open for the day but also gave each man more insight into how the other would act under pressure rather than having to just rely on how they choose to present themself in a controlled setting.

#5) Goodbyes. Men could leave the "Green Room" seemingly at any time they wanted—not just as a final farewell, but when they had personal or work plans, they could be gone for several days. I thought this was a thoughtful choice, as participants had the freedom to decide when their time had ended/they had gotten what they wanted from the Green Room, as well as make carving out 30 whole days to be on a reality show much more feasible.

#6) Control/Communication. Other than the coffee truck being used as a vehicle—get it? Vehicle—to allow participants to pair up, there were some days when it was closed to allow the option for dates; however, the feelings of each man had to align to go on the date. There were also letters used in the beginning to communicate the men's thoughts. In His Man, there are phone calls, chat messages, letters, and cards that rely on chance/desire to obtain them with prompts/events that can force/allow the opportunity for new people to be paired up to go on a date that hasn't before as well as shake things up a bit in the house.

I see advantages as well as disadvantages to both approaches. His Man's setup allows secrecy at points as well as promotes participants to take an active role in fighting for their date while also (depending on fate) forcing them to explore other options. The Boyfriend has a loose setup that relies on intentional pursuit as well as increased time available for the participants to get to know each other during their free time before (hopefully) confirming their mutual interest.

I do feel His Man made the men step out of their comfort zones and express thoughts in confidence that they wouldn't feel brave enough to otherwise. But I also see and appreciate how The Boyfriend allows the men more freedom to choose their partner.

#7) Hosts. Hosts have never been a part of His Man but found their way here. I did have my concerns in the beginning that they were going to interrupt too much or, perhaps, say something out of pocket. But I was relieved to find that they were a quiet presence and only chimed in on occasion. They acted more like a 3rd party cheerleader to watch with you than anything.

All in all, I was quite delighted with The Boyfriend, regardless of production choices. I sincerely hope there is a second season.